Stop HATING Your Life & Find Happiness

Do you wake up every day dreading the day ahead of you? The more I talk to people around me I realize that it is EXTREMELY common for people to hate at least one aspect of their life. Hearing people complain about their jobs, theirs chores, their relationship, their home, their bodies, their entire being, has made me realize that we need help. What is so great nowadays is that there are endless ways to reach out for help; you just need to find what works for you. A new service that I will be offering, on top of Yoga Therapy, is Life Mentoring! My goal is to empower people to take back control of their lives and find true happiness from within.

There is so much focus on the “rise & grind” mentality that we often leave our own self-care in the dust in attempts to create a life for ourselves that we can show off on social media. Most of the time, people only post the best parts of their life, but when I meet up with friends or family in person, they often times have something to complain about. Venting about serious problems and being an ear to someone you love is not what I am talking about, we all have bad days; I am talking about the types of conversations where someone complains about EVERYTHING in their life, from folding laundry, to driving to work, complaining about their awful diet or how their body looks, etc. Quite frankly I’m sick of commiserating about how awful our lives are. I want to live a life that I can love for every second of every day and I want to help YOU do that too!

Why does everyone just sit around and accept that this is how life is supposed to be? Have we all just become comfortable with being unhappy? There is a solution to every single one of your problems or complaints; you just have to actually take action steps to create real change. Bitching about your problems is not going to fix anything. If you do not like something about your situation then change it or learn to find love and acceptance for your circumstances. If you HATE your job, find a new one. People always say “It’s not that easy!” Well, no, I never said it would be EASY, but creating lasting change in your life is rarely EASY. You have to make the CHOICE to change your life. It is not going to happen on its own. What do you want to change about your life?

If you are not happy in your relationship, either make the decision to leave or get help to become stronger together. Relationships take work and if there is a communication breakdown, outside help can bring a new perspective to things. If you hate where you live MOVE! Again, easier said than done for some, but it CAN be done if you want it badly enough. I have lived in four different states and didn’t stop moving until I found where I wanted to be. If you have issues with your body confidence like I did, find help to change your mindset (not a new diet, PLEASE!) If you’re feeling overwhelmed with chores, prioritize what is most important and do a little bit each day or make a schedule for yourself to become more organized. Life can be hard, and we all go through struggles, but we can chose to let those struggles ruin us or make us stronger.

We can decide to let our “problems” rule our life and be an excuse to not make anything better, or we can decide to take control of our lives and choose to work towards happiness. Being alive is a beautiful opportunity; we shouldn’t let ourselves live an unsatisfied life. We can also find happiness and contentment with our current life. Maybe you don't actually need to change anything; maybe you need to just change your perspective on the life you already have. I know for myself, my life became much happier when I started to address the root of my mental health issues instead of masking them with medication.

Shifting my perspective has allowed me to see my life in a whole new light. Having mental illnesses allows me to appreciate the times in my life when I am healthy, because during the sick times, it feels like being able to choose happiness is not possible. If you are also struggling with a mental illness and feel as if it is a burden on your life, reach out for help! With the help and support from doctors, therapists, yoga therapists, a fitness & mindset coach, my friends, and my family, I was able to truly change my life. Almost every day I discover something new about myself or my healing process, but I do it with help from a handful of people. Asking for help does not make you weak or helpless. Life is hard so it would be in all of our best interests to learn from and support each other! I am aware that I am working on a lot of my own stuff, but I am still able to help support others in their own transformational change. It has taken time for me to accept that it is possible to help other while I am still healing, but I CAN!

My goal is to provide a safe space for people to really confront their flaws, weaknesses, pain, struggles, traumas, and strengths to create lasting transformation in your life. Changing your life into a version that you can fully love will not be easy. You may have to leave toxic relationships, quit a job that provides you with a good salary, get over an addiction, or create a new healthy lifestyle for yourself. You may even need to accept that it is your own mind that is getting in the way of you loving your life. If you cannot figure out exactly what it is that you need to change, you can enlist help from others! This is where I come in! Through creating a mind-body connection, we can access a door to your inner wisdom and start bringing real change into your life. This will not happen overnight; you have to be committed to showing up for yourself for at least a few sessions to see real change take place.

The bottom line is that you shouldn't feel powerless to change your life. If you do, this is when you need to ask for help. Asking for help does not make you weak. Often times it makes you more powerful! Harnessing your inner wisdom to empower ourselves and create a happy life is possible, you just have to be willing to put in the hard work and face the dark parts of your life in order to grow. We can’t simply ignore the bad parts; the light and the dark can exist together. Once we can face the dark, we can start to learn how to live with it while being in the light. Message me today if you would like to take the first step towards creating an authentic life that you can experience with full happiness.